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Parsha Vayechi: Not Leaving It to Chance

By Alex Bolotovsky, CEO of J Leaders

Parsha in a Nutshell

Jacob is 147 and knows his time is up. He calls in his sons and grandsons for one final meeting. It’s essentially a series of high-stakes performance reviews.
He shuffles the org chart (blessing the younger grandson over the older one), calls out his sons for their past mistakes, and gives each one a specific “lane” to run in. He dies, then Joseph steps up to keep the peace, reminding everyone that even the bad stuff was part of a bigger plan.

Diving Deeper

Call it like you see it: Jacob doesn’t give generic “good job” vibes. He’s specific. He tells his sons exactly where they excel and where they tripped up. Real leaders don’t sugarcoat; they give the feedback people actually need to grow.
The “Crossed-Arms” Move: When Jacob chooses the younger Ephraim for the bigger blessing, he’s saying that merit beats seniority. He’s looking at the talent, not the birth certificate.
Control the Narrative: At the very end, Joseph’s brothers are still scared he’ll seek revenge. Joseph shuts it down: “You intended harm, G-d intended good.” He chooses to frame their history in a way that allows them to move forward as a team instead of staying stuck in a grudge.
Your job isn’t to be the hero forever. It’s to build a system where the next person can be the hero. Leadership is about leaving the room better than you found it.

Weekly Leadership Challenge

1. The “Hype Man” Move: Jacob called out his grandsons’ potential before they had even done anything. Pick a friend or a peer who’s doubting themselves and tell them exactly what “superpower” you see in them. Why? Leaders build people up before they have the title.

2. Challenge the “Status Quo”: Jacob ignored birthright to bless the person with more potential. Think about a project or a social group you’re in; is there a “younger” or “newer” person with a great idea? Help them get heard.

3. Own the Narrative: If you had a falling out or a weird vibe with someone (like Joseph and his brothers), be the one to clear the air. Say, ”Hey, that happened, but let’s not let it ruin what we’re doing now.” Why? Whoever defines the story controls the future.